laurenbriar – Lauren Rosas

Fan or Stalker? Know the Difference.

Growing up, many of us dreamed of being the center of attention. Especially if we weren’t the most popular kids in school. Back then, the mere idea of other people wanting to know all the details of your life had such an appeal to it… didn’t it? And heck, maybe it still does. Well, flash forward to now. Your a rising influencer, Model, singer, actress, porn star, artist , or maybe just a pretty looking girl… and people love you for it! Things are going great, That is… until you get one bad egg in the bunch.

According to National averages, nearly 7.5 million people in the United States are stalked each year. And out of that average, nearly 61% of those being prowled… are you guessed it, women.Now, before we pack our bags and book a one way ticket to the Bermuda Triangle, it’s important to first know the difference between a loving Fan and a psychotic Stalker. But what is a fan? A Fan is a supporter of you or your cause, a friend, or perhaps is kin or family to you, I know my fans are. A fan is a person who knows and respects your boundaries. Who only loves and wants to see the best for you, a fan sends flattering, kind messages to lift your spirits. Makes jokes with you. And enjoys the light you bring to their world. A fan will never disrespect you for not responding or dating them. A fan knows they are a loving supporter and in turn a friend to you.

On the other hand, a stalker fits a far more intense, negative criteria. First and foremost, A Stalker is Someone with serious boundary issues. The word “boundary” to a stalker does not fit in their vocabulary. In fact, it isn’t in there at all. And by that, I mean they may start off as a fan, or a friend… but over time they’ll begin to show their true colors.


RED FLAG #1: Controlling Behavior. 

This is typically the first negative trait exhibited by a stalker. They may start out telling you what to do on with your social media profiles, or perhaps telling you what to do in real life. This may include what to wear, what to post or what not to post . This is the stalkers first attempt at trying to exhibit control over your life. My rule, if they didn’t pay for it Onlyfans… They have absolutely no dictation over what the heck I’m doing on social media.

RED FLAG #2 : Hostility

They may get angry if you don’t respond to their messages, they may start demanding you spend time with them, or do things for them. They treat you and your time more as objects of their possession rather than a cherished moment. At first, they may come off as sweet or flattering, but over time, if you notice them throwing tantrums like a broke kid in a candy store when things don’t go their way. It may be time to limit contact.

RED FLAG #3:  Narcissistic Traits.

Traits of Narcissism often found in Stalkers

What is a narcissist after all? Well I’ll tell you. Psychologically, a narcissist is someone that has an over inflated view of themselves. And an under inflated view of you… and anyone else for that matter. They may think they’re the greatest thing since sliced bread or perhaps, “The Big Mac” . Narcissists come into the world thinking the world owes them something. Rather than, I must earn something. Narcissists also hate loosing because it deflates their tender egos. Narcissists also hold a strong set of values that they believe most people should adhere to as well. If they hate the NE Patriots.. well Gosh Darn it.. you should too. If they hate it when girls where striped underwear, well you bet your sweet ass won’t be in a pair around them. Many narcissists are also known to have poor senses of impulse control. Leading many to lead lives of domestic violence, substance abuse or crime. Narcissists can change however, I’ve seen it happen in the past surprisingly. But most of the time they show no remorse for their wayward actions and see their wrongdoings as humorous or even worse… accomplishments.

RED FLAG #4: Actual Stalking 

Warning sign number four you ask? Well that’s just good old fashioned stalking. In my career as a Model / actress / artist I’ve had a handful of stalkers, 7+ all exhibiting the same traits. I guess you can say I’ve had my fair share of them. Perhaps I’m a magnet eh? Now, in the past I’ve had to do simple things like blocking calls or instagrams, but typically that doesn’t work on a stalker. After all they will just call you from another line or make a fake account and try to contact you that way. There have been times I had to change my number 2x in a row just to make sure they couldn’t make contact with me. Well, that didn’t stop them from showing up in my backyard or on my doorstep. So, I installed video cameras and started a filing cabinet full of past and present stalkers names and background information to share with family members of the local police department. I have also been cyber stalked in the past and it remains an ongoing issue. ⚠️ WARNING ⚠️ IF A STALKER FEELS REJECTED / WRONGED BY YOU HE WILL SEEK REVENGE OR AN ANIMOSITY WILL GROW. This animosity may last for days, weeks, months or even years beyond you ending contact with them. This is when their unhealthy obsessions can become dangerous!!

RED FLAG #5 Playing Nice then Turn Right back into The Bad Guy Again

Stalkers are master manipulators. They love to look like the “Good Guy” and love making people feel sorry for them, then turning around and trying to play “King of the World” again. This is mainly in part to them not seeing you as a person but as an object of their desire. Oh and they also think your’re stupid and have a lower IQ than them. Most have “Hero Complexes” so in thier story, your the Louis Lane that needs saving. Believe me when I say this, that in the past, I’ve had stalkers with no high school diplomas think they had the brains of Sir Isaac Newton, or the whit of Jerry Seinfeld. In their mind… they are a Godsend for you.



Mark David Chapman, The man who fatally shot John Lennon
Prison inmate Mark David Chapman, convicted for the murder of John Lennon

Delusional stalkers are plainly and simply put obsessed. Like the “angry stalker” they are on the hunt but to be honest you never really know what for. For example a man shows up and John Lennon’s house in London and asked the Beatle for his autograph. Lennon, being the awesome guy he was gave it to him no problem. Then, when he came back later that the man was still there and instead of attempting to get another autograph… he shot him dead. Low and behold they discovered his actual motive in the entire scheme of things was to be known as the man who shot John Lennon, and that God told him to do it for months. Creepy enough for you yet? Any-who, I’m sure you get the picture. Any sign of delusional talk. No contact or even better, just end contact all together.

Now, With That Being Said… Here are some POSITIVE WAYS to protect yourself from Stalkers

INSTALL SECURITY CAMERAS AT YOUR HOME. These are absolutely amazing. I have Arlo brand cameras, they work great and you can pick them up at your local Fry’s or Home Depot. Second, try to get a name and photo (if you can) of your stalker and let friends, coworkers and family members know of them. Now I like to pride myself on looking at everything with rose colored glasses, but just in case those roses come up thorns… you have a suspect of probable cause known. ( Remember This is absolute worst case scenario remember So don’t get paranoid!)

Carry Pepper Spray. Pepper spray is an affordable great way of self defense for a female. Mine was 10$ from Walmart and I absolutely love the sense of security it brings me. I take it hiking or whenever I’m out and about. If its nighttime and your walking in to an unknown or dark area, just take it out of your purse and hold it in your hand until you make it safely to your vehicle. Old Boot camp phrase I learned from Sea Cadets, “Stay alert! Stay Alive!”

Lastly, never tag yourself exactly where you are. Always keep your location a mystery and post later. If not you may just get some unexpected company… you didn’t see coming!



Stay safe out there ladies! And Many blessings !

Real or Fake? My PR / Marketing/ Industry Experiences…

Recently, I just severed ties with my last PR company @Kingpublishing. Now, I’m not going to get to deep into it but as it turned out I spent 1500$ in total and they never got me any of the magazine publications they promised. After three months of no luck, I asked for a refund from the PR owner, Geoffrey Parsons and he promised he would give it back to me. I provided him will all proper banking info and waited. Five days went by and still… nothing. Another week passed.. still nothing. I messaged him asking if he sent and every time he would reply with “Yes”. I would then ask him for the conformation from the bank he would make something up. As it turns out a few days later I go to search for his Instagram account @KingPublishing… it has now vanished. I checked from another account to see if he blocked me, but to my surprise, his entire account has been disabled. 

This unfortunately is not my first time working with a company like this. My first experience with a “shady deal” was actually a year ago with a company called MASS MEDIA LABS. I discovered the company through Linkd-In and they seemed super legit, or so I thought. They told me they would build me a website, Create my Patreon Page and add special edits to it to make it nicer. They also said they would market my Instagram page and get verifications for both FB and Insta. Once again, I paid 2,000$ in total, and as it turned out. Nothing happened. Angry and frustrated, I threatened to sue the company and luckily, was able to at least get this website built from it do to their prior web designer being extremely apologetic and professional. I found out later that the guys who sold me the package quit due to the CEO spending all of their money on drugs. Crazy I know. The company is now Non-Operative.

My last experience with “Business Shade” was with a Facebook marketer on Once again, this man was all smoke and mirrors. He promised rapid growth, FB and Insta verifications and social media Management. But just like the others, after paying one months of service with him for 500$. At the end of the month, I found myself again VERY disappointed. None of my accounts grew at all, in fact they were actually loosing engagement. And the only verification I got was a business grey check verification (which later I discovered you can do all on your own for free). Once again I found myself swindled out of my money, severing ties and ultimately… very discouraged.

I know these stories seem pretty bleak, but believe me when I say this… there is a silver lining to all of this. Let me explain! Despite finding myself in scam after scam, I eventually discovered a hidden gem that would change the way I looked at businesses forever. The YELP of the online and corporate world… Now, I want you to listen closely to me when I make this next statement, especially if you are a newcomer to the modeling/acting/music industry. “Always watch your own back. Companies, managers, marketers or anyone that does business with you in Hollywood has the potential to screw you out of time and money. Yes even companies steal too. Do not fully trust randoms and be especially careful if they reach out to you first or ask for money up front.” My entire goal for this blog is to educate and protect people in Hollywood. Its the city of glitz and glamour but remember, its also the town of broken dreams. It’s a sad vicious cycle, that real human people, with real dreams fall victim too… all to often. For years these artists fight to make headway in an industry that seems nothing but stacked against them. As the years go by, they begin to loose hope, slip into alcohol, drugs and depression and by that time the dream… along with all their hopes, goals and aspirations have now evaporated right in front of their eyes. Hearing stories like this, breaks my heart and that’s why out of ALL the thousands of models, actresses, musicians here on social media, I AM THE ONLY ONE, RECORDING AND SHARING EVERYTHING I KNOW. Telling you every step I took, on how I booked a Magazine, got a TV role, who I work with, how I started a Patreon, and much more; all for the sake of improving the human condition.

On a final note, I know deep down my blog and the words I have said have brought value to the lives of many people and perhaps even changed their lives in a positive way. I know my purpose in this industry is to do much more than be out for myself. I genuinely care about the goals and dreams of others and want nothing more than to see my fellow comrades succeed in this industry. That is why I take the time out of my busy schedule to keep this blog going and people informed about whats going on in the industry and how they can get ahead. A lot of people knock me though and say I’m wasting my time, I should just move on and make money and focus on myself and forget about everyone else… I just cant bring myself to do that. I am a fighter in this industry, and a fighter for you all. I won’t let you guys down. I am also the only IG model featured on mainstream news outlets such as NBC, FOX, ABC, and CBS. I know I’m doing good here and despite the criticism I get I will keep fighting for you all. No Matter What.

So in summation, before doing business with ANYONE… FIRST check Rip-Off Report, check FB reviews, check Yelp reviews, check this blog, and always remember watch your back. We got this. We will make it… together.

*** ALSO ON A FINAL NOTE: If you are the victim of a shady business deal, take it upon yourself to be a shining light to warn others. Report the scammer to the BBB, Cyber Crimes, or Rip-Off Report. Do not let them get away with it and hurt another person. Its up to you to spread knowledge to your fellow colleges. 

Stay Strong,

Lauren B.


How To Run A Great Patreon Page

Now many of you may be dying to know if there’s a magic formula on to how to run a successful Patreon Page. Well I’m here to tell you a few things… if you provide quality content, stay engaged, and remain consistent, your Patreon will continue to grow and thrive. Its also best when first starting out, to mirror other successful Patron creators in your same field and provide your fans with the same benefits they do. Simply because, if their Patron’s are happy and enjoying the benefits, yours will too.

Now, I will say, every girl is different when it comes to what type of benefits she is willing to provide on her Patreon. Some girls are more comfortable offering benefits such as private videos, personal phone numbers along with private snapchats. Others not so much and only want to provide pictures to their loving fans. And that’s ok! My motto is “ONLY do what you are comfortable doing!” I admit, I’m very open and close with my fans. I see them as my second fam, my crew and my cheerleaders so, granted I’m more comfortable with providing the benefits of private personal snaps, FaceTime calls, texts and monthly private videos. And if you are are open to providing the same benefits as me or some of them, simply copy mine, or another model’s and use it as a baseline for your own Patreon.

That’s right, Mirror other successful Patreon Creators in your industry. Why do I say this? Because, if you see someone in any industry doing something that’s working out for them, copy them and you too will begin to see similar results. One of my favorite motivational speakers, Brian Tracey encourages people in his sales training courses to copy the successful in any industry to achieve the results they do. He’s right. Before modeling, I worked full time at a company selling life insurance over the telephone. We had a strict script and the script was designed by the top people at the company. Interestingly enough, if you read the script word for word and we’re just nice to people, you could actually sell the insurance products with your eyes closed. (Literally, I did it once just to prove it could be done, it was so crazy!). And Strangely enough, if I veered too far off the script, my numbers would plummet. The same went for other people as well, if they stopped following the script, their numbers would begin to drop. So I guess what I’m trying to say, is that if you copy those who are already established on Patreon, you should have no issue making income on the side, allwhile providing your fans with great content for them to enjoy.

 Next, always remember to stay active! Every single day I send at least 5-7 snaps. I also try to post to my Patreon account once every 2 days. Inactivity shows a lack of care to your fans and although emergencies happen always make it a point to be active almost every day on these platforms, especially private snaps, private

IGS and Patreon pages.

Finally, you need to constantly be promoting your Patreon on your IG stories, Twitter and Facebook so people can get a preview of what kind of content you will be providing. Sexy teaser Videos are the best way for your loving fan base to get a glimpse at what’s coming to them if they sign up!




Also on a final note!!! Before sending out any private personal videos or gift packages, make sure their payment clears with Patreon on the first of each month. Remember, you, the creator, have the right to provide those higher tier benefits when you know they are all paid for. Also remember, that once they are paid for it is YOUR obligation to get those benefits out in a timely manner !

Many Blessings!
-Lauren B.

Why I’m Moving Into the Music Industry

Recently, many of you are noticing several changes to my social media accounts and i’m here to let you know, do not be alarmed; I am OK! Six months ago, if someone were to ask me, “Would you ever consider making music?” I would have responded, “No.” But, since then, things have changed.
My plan for this year, was to simply finish my Poetry book, continue posting to this blog, and get into as many magazines as possible. But as time went on… I began having a lot of realizations about life, the industry itself, and ultimately, what direction I want to go. Below, are the top three reasons on to why I’m making this progressive change.

1. Feelings of Being Overshadowed by My Photos.


I admit, being a model is fun, glamorous and rewarding; however, recently… I’ve felt a war inside me… I feel my art and talents are living in the shadows of my photographs. Its painful.. Sometimes I get really discouraged about it, and just want to delete everything off my page and just run insta stories. Don’t get me wrong though, I love creating beautiful photos, but sometimes I look at my photographs and wonder… would everyone leave  if I stopped posting pictures like this? I think about it a lot these days.. And still don’t want to know the answer.. Sometimes.. Ill be up late at night, and look at singers like Eminem and Halsey. I see they don’t need to post sexy photos to get heard.. Their art speaks for itself. It helps people and they are remembered for it.. I respect that. And whenever I get hate from someone saying “I show off my body to get heard”. I respect what they have to say, but I also wish they knew how hard it was just to get people to listen to them. Sometimes I feel muted no matter what I do.


2. I don’t really like talking about it, but parts of my life have been troubled…
Life for me has always felt like a series of peaks and valleys.. I’ve had some victories… but have also been defeated in more ways than one. Some defeats I have not recovered from. I’ve gotten myself into many dangerous situations, I don’t want to get too deep into it.. but I’ve dealt with issues that I think are best expressed musically. There’s been alcohol issues,  identity issues , and ultimately making really bad.. poorly thought out choices.. one leading to sexual assault; the other almost being killed by a man I didn’t know and should not have been with. It still scary to me.. music and poetry have helped out a lot when dealing with these feelings whenever I remember them.
3. I really want to help people and don’t know how.
I have said it before, if I did not model or sell insurance, I would want to work at a hospice. I would want to make sure that people in their final days got the best care from me, whoever they were. With music… I can try to help people as many people as possible and just maybe they’ll listen.
So there they are. the top three reasons on to why I’m making this transition into music. I hope you enjoyed this personal blog post. Please let me know in the comments what you think.
Peace love and many blessings!
Lauren B

How to Deal With Failure and Free Yourself of These Feelings.

So, you’ve just auditioned for that new acting job, or perhaps you submitted your entire modeling portfolio to a real prestigious talent agency or heck, maybe even interviewed for that cool job you wanted for the summer. You feel a sense of pride, only because it took so long to get all these plans in motion. Only to find that all in which, run in vain.

That acting job…Never calls back. That talent agency…Never responds to your email. And that cool summer job… Hired someone else. Your crushed, devastated and ultimately feel like all your time and efforts meant absolutely nothing. However, you my friend… are wrong.

 Henry Ford once said, “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently!” And for those of you who don’t know who he is, Henry Ford was the brilliant creator behind Ford Automotives and little did he know, it would take over 5 years of failure to create America’s first Model T, Automobile. Failure happens to everyone. None of us are exempt from it. It comes and goes in waves, some stronger than others. it never feels good and can be downright discouraging at times. But remember this, the only true failure in life, is the one who refuses to try again.

I admit, the past three months have not been great for me. For one, I thought that by this point in time I would be published in multiple magazines, articles and perhaps even interview with “The NY Post”. After all, I was working with  two separate PR companies and both promised the world. Next, I thought I would have a published Wikipedia page, after all; I was on a TV show, was in Maxim magazine and even had some radio interviews out. Lastly, I thought I was going to team up with some new artists for some song collaborations. After all… they said they liked my music and the studio time was paid for as well. Well, all of these plans flopped. Both PR companies put out no publications. Wikipedia rejected my page then messaged my Upwork Wiki Creator and said I was “not notable enough” to have my page approved and as for the music collaborations? One person never responded back to me despite me paying 160$ in studio time to work on their song. The other artist… well she blocked me from all platforms… I still have yet, to find out why. If that wasn’t bad enough, I also had 9 friends leave my inner circle this month. And four days ago, I woke up to a text from one of my best friends of eight years, saying “I just can’t support you anymore and what your doing”. Meaning, they no longer wanted to talk to me because of my modeling career. I was devastated and moreover hurting… in so many different directions.

I will tell you though, despite the pain of loss, failure and rejection… I will carry on. Why? Because right now, as I write this article, I’m living, I’m breathing and ultimately have the power to try again. An interesting thought crossed my mind the other day, that made me to think critically about these hard times. Here was the thought. Your in your dying moments and an angel walks up to you and tells you. Do you want to live? Out of breath and gasping for air, you frantically answer “YES!”  The angel then goes on to say “Ok, but if you want to live… you must be sent back to one of the hardest times in your life” (besides that one of course)! What do you answer? For me, the hardest year of my life was 2012. I was working 3 Jobs. Dated a man who was no good for me and was evicted from two different apartments, all in the course of a year. But even then, in my dying moments, I would take back those terrible times…. just to live again! You having the mortal life you do… ultimately have more power than you think. Think about it. If things don’t work out, you can always try again or perhaps try something new. The dead unfortunately do not have that option. We the living, may not always have the power to do everything but we do have the power to  at least do something, no matter how small… about our situations.

For example, If your in horrible debt, call a debt consulting company tomorrow and start making moves to get out of it. Or maybe, you’re feeling stuck and fear you have not reached your goals in the time you wanted. Well, Keep going! Why? Because if your still breathing there is still time to achieve! Or perhaps, maybe your in desperate need of money ASAP. If this is the case… start selling the things in your home and register with UBER or Lyft so you can get that cash flow ,back into your bank account. Lastly, perhaps your not booking acting or modeling jobs regularly. In this case, I would suggest you take an acting class or maybe even a class on how to audition because maybe it’s something you are doing in the auditions that could be improved with a class . As for modeling jobs, start mass emailing clothing companies or companies on Instagram and say you are an influencer looking to collaborate with a company and promote their name and products in exchange for a paid post. I do it all the time. You can to. Companies are always hungry for more advertisers. 

Also remember, Whenever things go wrong in your life and your feeling down, be kind to yourself first. Go for a hike, drink a few bottles of water. Water and exercise are great endorphin boosters. Also eat very healthy. Lots of green colorful veggies added to your diet will make you feel good physically. It’s been scientifically proven that veggies boost the mood as well. Next get some sleep so you can be well rested enough to plan out your next moves.

Anyway, whatever you are going through right now remember to ask yourself, “In your dying moments, would you be more than willing to take today back?” I think the answer is very clear. So get back out there! Dust yourself off. Start from ground zero, switch things up, keep pushing out work and keep up the good fight.

Peace, Love and Many Blessings!


Lauren B.

How to Book Radio and Podcast Interviews!

So, you’ve just finished listening to your favorite celeb give an interview on a popular radio station or podcast. But have you ever wondered how they got there? Perhaps they joined a secret society that has now decided, it’s this person’s time to shine and quickly landed them some airtime. Or possibly, they did something so monumental that now, every talk show host in or out of the country, is just beating down their doors to interview them. Well, I am here to inform you all, that although these are very colorful scenarios, there is a more practical way these celebs went about getting their interviews.

For one, they could have gone the pricey route. Now, unless you’re Mark Zuckerberg or signed to a major record label that’s actively dedicating a portion of your advance to an advertising budget, I strongly suggest you steer clear of this first option. Mainly because there are more cost-effective ways to landing interviews. And although, it’s an entertaining thought to be on your favorite radio station during prime time, its also very expensive; with many radio campaigns ranging from thousands to hundreds of thousands of dollars… Yikes!
Don’t let this discourage you however for the majority of rising talent is in your very same boat… myself included! Yet, despite not having a ton of cash on hand to promote yourself with, you can still easily get the airtime you deserve. Websites such as, are a Godsend to rising artists on a budget. As for myself, I use religiously. All you have to do is search the website and at the top of the page click on SEE NEW RADIO INTERVIEW GUEST REQUESTS. Once you click on that you will see a ton of new radio station requests just aching for new guests. Since I began using this website, I’ve landed myself three radio interviews. My first was an international radio show called, “Carry on Harry” in Singapore. My second, “Talk with Francesca” was an east coast radio show in which, Dr. Phil was also once interviewed on. My third was “The AME Experience” on Iheartradio. This was my most recent and will be airing in about two weeks. Now why did I tell you all of these you may ask? Simply because… if I can do it you can too and let me show you how.

First, you go on to and you look at the qualifications interviewers are looking for. Do they want an author? Do they want a public figure or rising public figure? Or perhaps do they just want someone that has an incredible story to tell? That is for you the potential interviewee to determine when reading the brief paragraph in who they are looking to interview.
So, let’s say you come across a radio request seeking to interview an artist/ public figure/ rising public figure. That right there, fits your description. Now, simply click on the top underlined part and scroll down until you see the booking email part. Now copy that email and begin composing your proposal to them on to why you would be an entertaining guest on their show. Below, I have attached some real emails I sent out myself to radio stations that had me on their shows. Now, granted our stories probably differ greatly from each other, but that does not mean you can’t use my email as a set up or base for your own. Here is one of my emails I sent to a Radio Booking Email and was booked on:

“Hello there! my Name is Lauren Briar, I hope your day is going well! I came across your ad on radio guestlist and would love to try to book an interview with iheart radio. Currently I’m a published Maxim and Playboy model. I have also been working hard to publish my books this year. I write poetry along with fantasy/ fiction. I also run a model help blog so other models in the Hollywood industry can reference it and go to the same places I went to in order to get published and shoot with the same photographers I shoot with to avoid scams and fraudulent people in the industry. I provide this info on my blog free of charge and answer any questions that come my way. A few days back my story was picked up by the news and was featured on Fox, NBC, ABC and several more. I can send over the links to them if you need to see. Would absolutely love the opportunity to spread the word further about my model help blog and possibly be featured on radio stations to talk about it, so other young women and artists can read and utilize it for themselves. Please let me know if this is possible! I would love the chance to share this with the world. Here is my phone number if easier for you, 619 XXXXXXXX . I would absolutely love the opportunity. Attached are some news articles and works I’ve been published in. Hope to hear from you soon!

Many Blessings!
Lauren B.

Now, As for yourself, you wouldn’t want to use this example word for word but notice the organization of the proposal and apply it to you. Basically, you want to try your best to prove to the program that you are the perfect artist or public figure for their calling. Here is the format I follow that you can to:

  • Introduce Yourself: Personal greeting of who you are and how you found them. Always professional and pleasant.
  •  List Your Credentials: What you would bring to the table as a guest. What do you want people to know about you? Are you a model? Are you a singer? A writer? Or are you a budding entrepreneur? What would you like to promote yourself as, and how you would personally add entertainment value to their show.
  • Offer Proof of Credentials (AKA) Your Art or Accomplishments: Have you been published in an article or magazine? Have you come out with a new song or mixtape? Have you been on TV? Have your written a book or made an independent film that you want to bring awareness to? If so, attach any clips or photos of your work to add as concrete evidence to strengthen your case on to why you would be a perfect fit.
  • Close with Hope and Positivity: Now, after you’ve finished writing your brief paragraph on to why you would like to be on their program. Kindly end the message with a simple, “Hope to hear from you soon!”. I end all my radio booking messages with this because genuinely, I do hope to hear from them soon. Now you can choose something more personal to you if you wish but this one seems to sum everything up nicely.
  • End the Message with your Name, Email or Phone Number: This shows you are serious in wanting to be contacted back. All of the radio stations I’ve received interviews with said it was easier to contact via phone through text messaging. Some may differ, but its nice to include your number.

Now that you have correctly composed your proposal on to why you would be a great guest, send it off and wait for some bites! Always remember too, not everyone gets picked up for everything (I know I sure don’t!) So don’t be discouraged, if no one reaches back out immediately. Simply send out your message to as many programs/ booking emails as possible. Now do note, that most radio interviews are usually free, however some with larger audiences may require a small booking fee of $30- $100. You can check to see if this is apart of the requirements in the description of the show. Most of the money goes to the costs of production for the interviewer. After all, they have to pay the bills too right? Additionally, though, I would not spend more that $100 for a booking. It may be wise at first to follow that same guideline.

On a final note, make sure to get the audio or video link to your interview sent to you so you can promote it via fb, Instagram, or convert to a youtube video. Your fans will love it and you will feel so happy and accomplished that you too could make a radio or podcast interview happen for yourself!

Many Blessings!
Lauren B.

How To Get Published

     You’ve seen them. We all have. You know, those unknown social media models who all of a sudden grace the covers or insides of your favorite magazines. Sometimes you even see them as online features in Sports Illustrated or Maxim Lady of the day. While glazing over these publications, you may first think to yourself , “Who is this person?” Or, better yet, How did they get this opportunity?”. Well ladies, I’m here to tell you, the honest to God truth on how these women, along with myself got their pictures into publications. And it doesn’t involve meeting some random middle aged tycoon at an elite Hollywood party. No… in all honesty, published models just chose the right PR company to work with.  In the beginning, when I first started modeling… things were undoubtedly tough. For one, I was investing a ton of my hard earned money into photo shoots that didn’t lead anywhere, and two I was doing tons of free work with inexperienced photographers who in the end never coughed up the photos. (I know violating and devastating). I knew no one in the industry and was extremely naive to the hidden scams that newcomers may face. I also fell for many of them. Some of them were so painful I still have not recovered… Indeed it was a perfect storm for a young girl with high hopes of hitting it big; born for adversity. As the months went by so did my accruing number of failures. Failures such as shooting with unprofessional that never give you your photos or shooting with unprofessional that only give you 5 photos after hours of shooting. And despite my best laid plans, it took over 2 years of eating dirt and gaining knowledge to finally be one of those women to utter   the words “I’m published!”

Image result for pr companyPR by definition is an short acronym for the words Public Relations. And weather you’ve just started or have been in the entertainment industry for a while, you will discover that PR, in combination with your talents of course, is a vital part of your career. Statistically speaking… the more published exposure, the more familiar you become to the public, the more familiar you become… the higher potential for you to gain a stronger following and receive more modeling opportunities .

    Now, I will say, If you can get PAID PR go for it! two weeks prior to auditioning for Playboy, I did come across a  casting call online and decided I’d submit my cosplay photos just for kicks. (Yes, I started out as a cosplay model.) As it turns out, those photos landed me the audition and in time, it proved to be the turning point of my career. I can go into that later, but the Golden PR ‘nugget’ to take away from this story is to first, try your best to attend auditions or casting calls with reputable companies like this, who can publish your photos and give you a paycheck. Paid PR is ultimately the best form of PR. So go out and audition for as many paid modeling gigs as you can! (Additionally, I wrote my last article on how to audition for Playboy Plus, check it out if your interested!)

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Another way to get published is simply reach out to a PR company and ask for their rates. I reached out to Main Street Productions. Ryan Dwyer and Luis Rodriguez run the company and are the best in the business when it comes to getting models published fast. They work with you in obtaining your perfect  look and also give active direction along the way. They are honest and straightforward with all of their models and set the expectation every time. They do what they say they will do. They don’t make false promises to models. That’s why I enjoyed working with them. And if your wondering, is Lauren being  paid to promote them on this blog? I do not wish to be paid for it and will reject any payment if I was offered it. For the entirety of my career, I will continue to share every drop of life giving information with women so they to can perhaps achieve their dreams and hopefully advert themselves from the same strife and pain I encountered, on my own in this industry.  So you are a model, interested in working with them like I did, go follow @mainstreetproductions on Instagram and ask them about their PR services and rates. You will get nothing but quality from them.

Photographers: 7 Types

As a model, it’s natural that you will come into contact with several different types of photographers. However, I’m here to let you ladies know, that not every photographer is all that and the bag of chips they claim to be! In this industry, you will encounter 7 distinct types of photographers. Yes, indeed, 7 distinct types of photographers that you need to be aware of before entering the industry or delving deeper into it. If you constantly struggle with model/ photographer relationships this is the blog for you…

Photographer Type 1: The Pricey Professional

This type of photographer may cost you a pretty penny, but in turn, they know their craft and is apparent in their art. Working with the Pricey Professional will be fun and almost always a learning experience for the model. They may offer you guidance on how to pose, and will experiment with a variety of lenses and different camera angles to capture your best looks. Most of all, they will promptly and proficiently deliver all of your photos you request from them without fail. These guys know their work inside and out, they are experienced and know how    to treat a client. Their proficiency in photography as well editing outweigh the price every time. I still pay for some shoots time to time, but the only times I pay now are for distinct reasons, such as owning the publishing rights or website usage.

Photographer Type Two: The Trade for Print Pro! 

This Photographer is your go to. You both vibe well together and create killer content for both your pages. They don’t charge, but you don’t either. You both just love creating amazing art together for your audiences to enjoy. Keep these guys close!  You wont have to worry about not receiving your photos from them. They generally send them in a few days time  Their editing is also superb! Keep these guys close! You make a great team.


Photographer Type Three: The Pro Creep!

Now this type may be All Stars when it comes to taking photographs, however they also can be professional Creepers! Yes, the photography skills for these types are extraordinary but if you deny them a chance with you on the “casting couch”, you will never receive your content. Generally speaking, these types  have large egos and come across slightly disenchanted with the world, in other words… embittered. They believe they are the best in the business due to the quality of their work, however lack in interpersonal relationships and professionalism. These types are the MOST LIKELY to try to hook up with models then suddenly vanish when it comes time to deliver their photos. You will see these types shooting with known models, unknown models or perhaps celebrities from time to time. Just to let you know they don’t show the celebs or well known models this scandalous side of them because they know the model or celeb has the power to dismantle their career. A sad story, many see all too often. Don’t be fooled! Be Leary of these types and before working with them or any photographer in question, have them sign a model release form before shooting. There is one attached to this blog you can download and print out for yourself. If they don’t want to sign it, that’s usually a bad sign. Let these types know you don’t play!

Photographer Type 4: The Just Plain Creep! 

These types, we all have fallen for once or twice. It’s extremely disheartening  but it happens to the best of us. This type is  simply put, a CREEP. Chances are, this type has low grade camera and is extremely flirtatious and touchy. Most of this type never went to school for photography, or even studied it for that matter. This type will most likely try to make a move on you… or even worse ask you to spend the night. These types usually insist on implied nudes the moment you walk in the door. To your dismay, they may even make you sign your “Model Release Form” on a used Buffalo Wild Wings napkin! (UGHH! Sorry, repressed memories!). Anyway, these Creep types will single handedly achieve at taking some of the most unflattering photographs you will ever see of yourself in your entire lifetime. And when it comes time to ask  for your photos, you may as well not even bother, due to the fact they will never provide them and despite months or perhaps years going by, will claim they they are still in the “editing” process. If by chance you are lucky enough to score images from this type, they may be extremely low quality and you probably won’t be able to post much or perhaps not at all, due to the majority being, terribly out of focus. When you spot a photographer like this. Just walk away. Better yet, run. For they are most likely, up to no good and will almost always, waste your time.

Type 5: The Blooming Artist 

I enjoy these types. Although their photo skills may not compare to the Pros in the business and their cameras are lower in resolution, these guys are really fun to work with. This is also a trade for print set up where you both just create art and share it for free. Together you will experiment with unique poses and props, laugh, and just have a great time. The photos may appear vintage due to the camera quality, but that’s ok, because vintage is in! You will get some good content from this shoot and have a chance to practice nailing certain poses. In the end, you both will have a great time creating art.


Now, for the last two types , I thought I would shake things up a bit by personally interviewing a popular model on Instagram who also once shot for Playboy. Her name is Bailey Madison and goes by the Instagram name @whereisbailey. Here is what she told be about these types.

Type 6: The Paying Professional

Bailey states, “This was a great experience for me. Usually, Paying Professional Types of photographers are actively trying to grow their audience. We agreed on him paying $300 total for the shoot. He asked me to bring specific sets of clothing to match certain locations. He picked me up and we drove to several different spots, all  scouted out before hand. We shot and talked briefly about each other’s goals in the industry. The photos turned out fantastic, it’s been a few years since my first shoot with him, but now am happy to see him getting his works published and  shooting with some of the top models in the industry.”

Type 7: The Paying Unprofessional

Bailey then goes on to say, “My worst experience was a couple of years ago with this type of photographer. The man initially reached out to me through social media, requesting that we do a paid shoot together. From the looks of it, his work was a bit Amateur.. but I shrugged it off and agreed to shoot with him for an even $300. Upon arriving at the meet up location I noticed the photographer was being very rude to me. He told me I needed to get a better tan and that my hair needed to be fixed and the color changed, along with countless others. This bothered me. Simply because I didn’t change my appearance going into the shoot, he already knew what I looked like so it felt as if he was just looking for things to find fault in. After shooting for a couple hours, things seemed to be going well… until we starting doing fully nude implied photos. While taking these photos, I noticed him grabbing his pants and saying he was getting hard. After hearing this, I tried to brush off the comment and attempt to change the subject. I’d never heard a photographer say that at a shoot before. By the end of the shoot, I was covered in paint and asked to use the shower before I heading home. To my dismay, he then asked if he could join in. Awkwardly and uncomfortably, I laughed and proceeded to go into the other room to take a shower. A few minutes into washing my body, I see his hand pulling back the curtain and immediately asking if I needed anything to drink. Complete intrusion of privacy! Aggravated, I said no, and resumed my shower. Once I finished, I heard the door fly open again. It was him, barging in as I was getting dressed. It seemed like the entire time he was under the impression I would take his sexual hints and jump into bed with him. After getting paid, I pretty much ran for the hills. I never spoke to him again, the photos turned out terrible. So bad in fact that I never even posted them…”

So there you have it! Those are my “7 Types” of photographers to get familiar with. Also, here is a list of all the photographers I work with. Feel free to reach out to them and set something up! They are all great artists I trust to deliver professionalism.

Also! Don’t forget to print out the photo release form attached below! This will help you weed out the pros from the phonies! Follow my favorite IG photographers below and message them about shooting!

Save this photo release form for your records ladies! Get your pics and know your rights!

Beach Photo: @partylikejzl

Forrest Photo by: @girlsonglass

Pool Photo by: @stevebitanga

Los Angeles Skyline Photo: @edwinevolvephoto

Pastel Beach Photo: @mishanw

Playboy Casting Call! Apply Below!

Have you ever dreamed of modeling for Playboy? Well, now is your chance ladies. At the bottom of this blog, I’m linking all the information to Playboy Plus casting calls in Burbank, Ca. Now I’ve modeled for Playboy in the past and below this article I am giving you the info you need to try out for Playboy yourself!

Now, two years ago, I was a different person. I worked at a company from 9-5 then would head off to night school afterwords. I would find myself bored at my desk frequently and one day, I randomly began searching Playboy casting calls. To this day, I still don’t know Playboy castings crossed my mind that afternoon. Perhaps it was fate… Anyway, I was lucky to come across a real link to apply. This link then led to the casting directors email. It was defiantly real, however there were and still are a ton of false submission sites requesting photos of young women claiming to be associated with Playboy. Eagerly, I submitted my best cosplay photos and waited patiently for a response. About two weeks later, I was in my statistics class and began checking my  emails. To my surprise… it was the casting director at Playboy. Immediately, I was shaking in my boots. I couldn’t believe that I was even speculation for something as big as Playboy! Disclosed in the email, was an audition time and date. So since I read the email a little bit late, my audition was in 4 days. EEEP! After reading it, I had to get some fresh air, so I stepped outside and went for a quick walk around the campus. So many thoughts were running through my mind, thoughts like “Is this real?”, “What if they turn me down?”, or perhaps, “What if this changes my life forever?”. After taking a brief walk, I finished up my statistics class and began thinking on how to prepare for something of this caliber. I was extremely nervous, and even worse….down to my last 40 bucks. I knew I needed to find a way to scrape up enough money to make the trip. So I did what any person needing money would do. I went down to a local thrift shop, and sold every cosplay costume/ prop I had. It was right before Halloween so naturally, they were happy to take everything. While at the cash register, I looked at my small pile of sentimental treasures and couldn’t help but feel the pain of having to sacrifice something you love for the possibility of a brighter future. I left that old secondhand shop with a grand total of 70 dollars in my pocket and to withered, empty bags. I returned back to my car, feeling like I just gave up a gold brick for a few pieces of silver. I cried for about 5 minutes and then told myself. “Lauren, it’s time to move on”.

Me and my friends at the Playboy Mansion (2016)

Now today… I’m happy to say that 70 bucks did prove to get me to my destination, and in time… to a whole lot more. Upon arriving, I was told to fill out a sheet of paper. Upon the sheet there were several personality and fill in the blank questions. Nothing to scary! After filling mine out, I was called into the photo studio where they took photographs of me against a blank wall. I shot from several different angles and tried a garden variety of poses. I first shot in bra and underwear then, full nude. I was also asked questions such as “Why should Playboy choose you to model them?”. Overall, the process was not as intense as I thought it would be, and surprisingly wrapped up in about 30 min time. Two weeks later, I received another email saying I landed the shoot and also a guest appearance on the Playboy Morning Show.  Two years have past since that day, and I’ll never forget how that one audition changed my life and hopefully the lives of several others… forever.

Me On Set With Playboy (2016).

Below is a link to the new “Playboy Plus Casting Calls” . Also don’t forget to follow @officialplayboyplus along with the casting director, @hollyrandall on Instagram! She’s the woman in charge of all the shoots. Now go out there and get em! If you never try, you’ll never know!





How to Save Money


I always say, “Saving money is slightly more important than earning money.” Strange statement right? Well, let me explain. Essentially, earning money is empowering, invigorating and leaves one with a sense of accomplishment. Now, how many people have you heard utter the words, “I spent all my money on food!” or, “I went shopping for some new clothes and now I’m broke!”. It’s okay, we all have our moments. I too, have found myself eating these same words in the past. However, I discovered I was saying these words all too often and when I began tallying up the numbers, I could see that neither food nor Forever 21 putting me in a financial pinch… it was me.

Much of what happens to us in life boils down to habits. In this case, my habits were simple. Make money… then spend it. Unfortunately, many people, fall victim to these same traps (especially models, and I’ll go into why later). Here are some ways to break free of these binding habits, so you can enjoy the fruits of your labor without being overburdened with debt.

EAT AT HOME. I can’t stress this enough to anyone trying to save money. I understand, after a hard days work, its nice to sit down to a nice meal at your favorite restaurant or order a quick take out item from a local fast food location however as it turns out, when you dine out, you are actually spending 3 to 4x the amount it costs  to make the item. if you think about it, a meal at a fast food joint runs people around 10$. A meal at a restaurant is almost double or triple. Back when I worked as an Executive at a company, I would NEVER cook at home. I would dine out every meal and every time payday rolled around, I was ecstatic. Only because I was broke as heck and probably a hungry again too. Once I quit my 5 year career there,  I quickly began realizing how much money on food I squandered all of those years. Now, I shop at the Sprouts near my house. Vegetables, fruits, lean meats, eggs, beans and rice are all very inexpensive and make up the majority of my diet. Happy to say that now I can live healthy and satisfied off of close to 30$ a week, just by shopping at the local supermarket.

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MAKE YOUR OWN COFFEE/TEA/SMOOTHIES. This kind of ties in with the first tip, however once you realize that even something as small as that latte or smoothie really adds; you’ll think twice before you order. Before I quit my job, I went to Starbucks every day. After quitting, I did an average of how much I spent on Starbucks a month and came to find myself in total shock. Every day, I would order a Starbucks at every meal; breakfast, lunch and dinner. In essence, I discovered I was averaging about 10$ or more a day and at the end of the month, I discovered I was spending over 300$ just on Starbucks alone! Yikes! The same can go for places like Jamba Juice, or Teavana or anywhere else you purchase that morning kick. Now, I own a Nespresso machine and save tons of money, over 3,000 per year to be exact. So, if you enjoy tea, coffee or smoothies in the mornings, I would strongly recommend purchasing your own tea, coffee or smoothie machines. They will definitely save you a fortune in the long run! 

SHOP THRIFTY. Now, here is the part where many models and ladies in general fall victim to the same trap. Shopping. Now, I love shopping as much as the next girl, but I know it an land one in lots of debt and stress. Being a model, I know there is a lot of pressure on women to keep up with the latest trends. Sadly, in desperate attempts to appear wealthy and successful, many make large, expensive purchases on credit cards or take out loans to buy the hottest styles to give off an appearance of wealth and prestige. Don’t do this. It ends up hurting you more that helping you. As my favorite designer, Alexander McQueen once said, “Fashion should be a form of escapism and not imprisonment…” meaning, yes its nice to have some fancy things now and then; but don’t let them trap you into massive debt. If you really want to shop designer, use the Tradsey app. On this app. you will find designer labels for just a fraction of store costs. Everything on the app. is secondhand and sometimes never worn or used. I admit proudly, I shop here as well as thrift stores for all my looks. No one will ever know the difference, because at the end of the day its just clothes and accessories.

TELL YOURSELF NO. This last point is probably the most important because in the end, right before were are about to buy something we may not need, we tell ourselves “YES”. Now, it’s okay to tell yourself “YES” once in a while. But, telling yourself yes all the time, can lead to big trouble later on. I understand. The word “NO” can make you cringe with feelings of inadequacy even if you know the means are there at the moment. Believe me, I know. As a girl raised by a single mother of two, I heard this word a lot. So when I got older, I vowed to only tell myself “YES” to everything; due to all the years I was deprived of everything I wanted. As consequent, just saying “YES” got me into more trouble than not purchasing. When I worked at my company I spoied myself and because I was too proud and too afraid to tell myself, “NO”. I left my company where I was on track to making 6 figures a year, close to 6,000$ in debt. After having to reach into my retirement account and pull out 6,000$ to pay off my creditors, I quickly became okay with telling myself, “NO”. At the end of the day, I realized that it was more painful to cough up that cash than to just say “NO” to some things.

In summation, these are my biggest tips on saving cash so you as a model or heck as a teacher, janitor, server, or any other occupation; can break free of the painful, “I’m broke and stressed” cycle so you can invest more into your dreams, whatever they may be.

Much Love and Blessings!


Lauren B.